Joke

I've been trying to put the moves on my husband. He thought he could resist but I'm making it too hard. ;p

Using the "N-Word"

I know this is going to get me all kinda of heat but why exactly are so many of us still laughing off black people using this language and burning everyone else at the stake?! In school, a couple of my black girlfriends kept asking why I didn't participate in using such language with them, as they were aware that my dad is 50% black and as I used to wear braids (which didn't suit me but my black babysitter liked doing my hair. XD ) Neither my dad nor his father (my grandpa, who was 100% black) ever had the disposition to use racial slurs so I just wasn't raised to do so. It pisses me off that some of us let certain people get away with this shit and then throw others under the bus when they do the same thing. Freakin sick of people's double-standards. So many people only support equality when it's trendy, convenient, or affects them and/or their loved ones directly. While it's easier to notice and be bothered by those things, of course, equal rights should mean EQUAL rights. If we're all gonna have the right to vote and not be slaves, we should all feel the same repercussions of poor word choices and/or be permitted to use the same words. I don't care how stupid the usage is - we all deserve the same treatment for partaking in it.

Additionally, you can't expect people to respect you if you don't respect yourself. If you're not going to stand up to everyone equally, regardless of race, when they use slurs like this then you're still promoting racism, racial segregation, and inequality. Tired argument, perhaps, but many still seem blind to that fact. Sick of the damn, "yeah, but.."s. It's not debatable; it's fact.

Men had voting and all kinds of other rights before women did in this country but they don't get to say, "we claimed this already and you have no business here" anymore than we women get to say, "we want the right to vote and get equal pay but men need to be the ones to open doors and we have every right to expect our men to be the bread winners if we decide feel like staying home." No. How about we all do a little progressive thinking and realize that we're all equally accountable for our actions and ought to be held to the same standards as long as we're demanding of equal rights and treatment. Either that or women can give up the right to vote and go back to staying home, maybe fucking the milkman, while our hubby's out working all day..

People arguing that a word belongs to a race need to realize that just because one race has or does something first doesn't make it okay and doesn't give them exclusive rights. I've heard the common rebuttals for this way of thinking and I've gotta say that I'm disappointed that so many people are unable to think deeply enough to realize that we take steps backward in the pursuit for equality when we start saying that we're okay with some people doing a thing but not others just because of our bilinkered opinions of what the thoughts and intentions of the latter group might be or because giving them this equal right bothers us personally. If the word is hurtful, it may not feel the same depending on who's saying it but isn't okay for ANYONE to use.

This in no way is meant to serve as justification of anyone's actions but I hope people will learn to be a bit more logical in and mindful of their judgements of others and take more time to think for themselves than what I've seen to date.

Joke

I didn't used to like penises this much but they grew on me.

Men: Can You Give Us Any Self-Defense Tips?

I just encountered this article talking about how countless women go about protecting themselves while out on runs and in general:

https://www.runnersworld.com/news/a27703069/twitter-thread-how-women-protect-themselves-running/

Guys: what do you all do? We've heard a lot of solid suggestions from the ladies but I've had male friends tell me they've been attacked a few times too (in fact, I was there for one such instance with my friend AJ back in ~'06) and I don't hear much discussion from them on the defensive measures they take. Maybe you dudes have some good ideas you can share?

Personally, I used to just carry a small switchblade, often visibly open and ready in front of me, between work and the car when I worked in a particularly seedy area in downtown Las Vegas. I was almost just as worried about what a cop would do it they spotted me that way as I was about what someone else might do to me if I didn't bother. LOL Nowadays, I tend to just put on my mean face, assume I'm fast enough to outrun my assailants, and stay alert at all times when I'm running (or walking) through dodgy places. It also helps that I almost always have a husband with me or not too far from me now.

Chivalry: Ladies Can Do It Too!

Fyi this is 2019 and gender bias does not need to exist when it comes to chivalry. In an age where we're all fighting for equality, I think we can each give our coats to our partners when they're colder than we are and I know my husband appreciates it when I open the door for him. It's also pretty funny watching him squeeze his man arms into my little jackets sometimes. XD

Abortion: Why We Need To Do Better For Women Before Robbing Them of Freedoms

The topic of the morality of abortion often overlooks a huge factor: women who opt for abortions are frequently those who didn't have access to adequate pregnancy prevention options.

I had consultations with numerous doctors about having tubal ligation done from the time I was 18 years old on. I've been absolutely certain all my life that I never wanted children. I've used just about every birth control method I've ever heard of but each came with drawbacks and side effects so I began seriously pursuing having tubal ligation done with I was 18. I was fortunate enough that the insurance my job provided covered the procedure but I couldn't find any doctor nationwide who would do the procedure on me. I persistently called and met in person with doctors, trying to persuade them or get recommendations for someone who would help, but I was repeatedly told that no one would do it for me because it was the standard to not do such a procedure on women who were unmarried, without kids already, and under 25 years old. They were all afraid of the backlash from women who wound up regretting it down the road.

Years later, after I was finally over 25, married, and had maxed out credit cards to spend cumulatively thousands of dollars on 10 abortions, they finally started taking me more seriously. I never wanted an abortion. I never wanted to get pregnant and throw all the money I didn't have away trying to not ruin the lives of myself, my partner, and a kid that we didn't even want. I wanted my tubes tied. Even after all that though, I was only able to find one doctor who would touch me and even she was extremely reluctant. After 10 abortions, she still worried that I'd change my mind and come after her. She agreed to help though. As is standard policy, we had a consultation and then waited 6 months to make sure I didn't change my mind before going forward with the procedure. Finally, I had my surgery. A year later, however, I got knocked up again. WTF. I spent hundreds more and had my 11th abortion. I went back to that doctor, who couldn't believe my tubal ligation had failed. She was a reputable doctor and had done the procedure to probably 100s of women before me without one failure til mine. I was unlucky, I guess.. So I went in for ANOTHER surgery in which she opted to cut and burn my fallopian tubes this time.

That was at least a couple of years ago now but I'm already 31 years old. I've bombarded my body with years of pills, shots, nuva rings, etc in an attempt to not get knocked up and still wound up pregnant 11 times. Oh yeah, and I've tried throwing myself down the stairs, using metal hangers and other tools, and ordering questionable drugs from other countries that induced extremely painful and dangerous miscarriages.

Especially without the surgery, do you realize how many unwanted kids I would have right now if abortion were illegal? I'm fairly certain that that wouldn't be any better than just giving me the surgery I so adamantly wanted. Not everyone has the resources I managed to utilize in my pregnancy prevention attempts either.

Whether or not we believe that abortion should be legal, I feel it holds true that we have a duty to people to strive to provide them with reasonable and equitable alternatives when we demand that they give up their freedoms to abide by our moral compass, rather than their own. Besides, using taxpayer dollars to provide those who want it with pregnancy prevention options that suit them would not only be a large part of a much more logical solution to the concern of morality of abortions but would also help to address issues such as overpopulation, global warming, our nation's debt (birth control would likely be cheaper than lots of unwanted kids living on government money), etc. If abortion were then made illegal, there would still be grey areas such as what to do when birth control failed or a woman opted not to take such preventative measures and became pregnant but decided she did not want to have a child. It would be a much more equitable start though and likely far more acceptable by society than just robbing people of freedoms.

*This was a quick type-up so pardon any incomplete thoughts, typos, etc. Hopefully, the message is clear enough regardless.

Balance

Dont logic too hard; it takes the fun out of life. Find a healthy balance of practicality and what feels good. You don't want to live in the moment at the expense of the future but sex shouldn't be reserved for baby-making.