Some people only contact you when they need something because they only value you for what you can do for them. Other people only contact you when they need something, even looking for excuses to need specifically you, because they worry you'll feel they're wasting your time if they get in touch just to say hello. The latter of these types justs want to be closer to you and feels they need a bigger reason than that to request your valuable and limited attention. (Sometimes, they're right.)
I'm only fully realizing this after years of resenting people who only ever reached out with their hands out. I'm also just realizing, as I write this quick mind dump, that I've actually spent time on each side of the equation, even reaching out to busy people I don't otherwise speak to with trivial requests primarily for the sake of interacting with them — not a frequent thing for me, but I'm not innocent. For all of us who find ourselves on either end, it's worth pausing to consider such interactions and try to put ourselves in each other's shoes.
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